My sister is going out of her way to embarrass me.?

My sister seems to have it in for me at the moment. She takes the micky out of me at every opportunity. She teases me about my job (I have a degree in Law but I choose to work in a shop), my clothes (bohemium - long flowy skirts, petticoats etc). I appreciate I don't follow the norm I don't think I deserve this. Recently she has been telling everyone that I was born with a penis and I only wear big skirts to hide it. She even got onto my user last week (left logged on when she came to visit) and posted my full name, address and where I work, told people what I was wearing and said I was hiding a penis under my skirt. SHe the pretended thatI was inviting people to come to the shop and to say Hi and to ask " are you pleased to see me or is that just a tent in your skirt". I have told her I have had enough bet she won't stop. We don't live together, we visit rarely. Our parents emigrated to New Zealand when they retired and have little influence over her. Help?

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1. stop seeing her-she sounds as if she has got a jealousy problem dont let her into your house if she calls round remember you can choose your friends but you cant choose your family I have an older sister who is completely mad, I gave up seeing her many years ago we just do the odd phone call now-and thats the way i like it!
2. Is she mentally retarded on some level?
3. jeousy and if u whant to u give her a taste of her own medicine its wrong but it fells right but still it will show her a leason
4. WHAT kind of a sister would do something like that? there is a limit to everything! talk to her seriously.tell her to get out of your life if you have to! Or do the same to her
5. Wow this is so hard. I agree you need to put some distance between yourselves. This does not necessarily have to be physical but she needs to know that given her current behaviour and attitude to you she is not welcome in your life. That said, it is easier said than done. It will be hard for you there is no denying it because she IS your sister. We are conditioned to believe that family bonds are sacrosanct and must be preserved regardless. So when a situation like your own arises the guilt you feel for not having a perfect bond with your sister is massive. You must remember that her actions are grossly offensive and the only reason she is getting away with it is because you are letting her off with behaviour that is outright bullying. You must be clear about what is happening with your parents because they need to understand why and how you intend to deal with your sister. Given their distance and inability to help practically this will be (and probably is already) very upsetting for them. Just as for school children there is the risk of being called a tell tale and your accounts being doubted - do not let these put you off. You need someone to talk to who understands, who might even help explain things to your parents if necessary. Do not be tempted to 'hit back' - frustrating I know, but don't. Then you have to deal with your sister. Stop the contact. She is not welcome to visit. She is not welcome to ring or email. This will be hard but you need some time to cope - some space to regain your strength. You must make it clear to her that you find her behaviour unacceptable and unitl she treats you in a manner you find acceptable she is not welcome. You can do this verbally but it may be better to put it into a well considered letter. Good luck this is hard, so hard. I know, I had to do it with my brother. Now four years on we have tentative contact but only by phone a couple of times a year. I now cope in my own life and do not dissolve into tears at the slightest thing. I wish you all the best.
6. I have never in all my life heard anything so cruel, but it just came to me .......... use what you know.......... the LAW ........sue her for sexual harrassment and slander, go for anything you can think of and get all the formal paper drawn up and serve her with papers. If you go to court, just for this one time , if your thing is long skirts. have one that is an A-line with a sweater that ends at the waist. If you somehow decide to give her a choice, make her take out a legal retraction stating that she is a liar and is jealous and not of mental stability. This should put a sock in it.